positive body image

Intimate Experiments


Do you ever dream of a world where you have a lingerie solution for every conceivable outfit and occasion?

Me too.

Unfortunately building the perfect lingerie wardrobe takes a lot of time, trial and error. There is no easy route or quick fix to underwear utopia.

Apparently there are seven different types of breasts and there are countless body shapes and size combinations. What may work for one woman may not work for you. There's no avoiding it - in order find the perfect underpinnings to suit your shape, size and lifestyle you need to be open to experimentation.

The results can vary - sometimes you find a life-enhancing bra or a game-changing ensemble but sometimes you end up with a yeast infection or a pair Spanx so tight they cause indigestion.

It's just an awkward, often embarrassing and sometimes liberating part of life's journey and there is nothing we love more than watching these very real, honest and funny experiments on Youtube.



Women With Big Boobs Wear Strapless Bras For A Week



Women Wear Expensive Lingerie For A Week



Women go Braless for a Week



Women Try Period Panties



The Try Guys Try Valentine's Day Lingerie



Right photo via Instagram.com/eliacastrillo


Women post lingerie selfies for all kinds of reasons. Contrary to popular belief, it’s not always aspiring models objectifying themselves for approval. No, it’s women taking selfies in a show of self-love and self-acceptance. Women are using social media to share their stories and bodies in the name of feminism and sisterhood. They’re using their words and images to protest against the haters, to challenge society’s beauty standards and to simply celebrate and enjoy the skin they're living in.

Here we chose 10 of our favourite body positive posts:





I will never forget when I saw someone post a picture of themselves with the caption "I would be a plus model, but that sh** is for lames". At first it made me feel self conscious, like I should be embarrassed that I'm a plus/curve model and not a "regular" or "real" model. Then I said to myself "well, call me a lame then!" I feel sad that someone could insult their own body type like that! Why should only one body type be portrayed in the media as beautiful? The ONLY difference between a curve model and a "regular" model is the size of our clothes. Other than that, we're all just out here WORKING......and occasionally twerking lol. I private messaged her and told her she is in fact beautiful, could model, and should appreciate the women who model and represent her body type.  #naturalmodelsla #healthyisthenewskinny #endrant #idontrantoften #gimmeabreak





I am so very in love with this body. This (body) is my home where I am glad to be. Over the years this body has become perfect to me (that in itself is a miracle). I could choose to see it's flaws, but instead I choose to see it as a whole package. I chose to love the thick thighs, the skinny calves, the slender arms that are very hard to put meat on. I choose to love and relish in the fat that clings on, below my belly button and the cellulite that hangs onto my butt. Just feeling grateful tonight. Any one else with me? #FeelingFree #bikinirebellion




Hey "fat" girl, hey "ugly" girl, you're more than what they say. Put on that outfit they said you shouldn't buy and step out anyway. Go to the beach, the fashion show, the prom. Go to ALL those places they say you don't belong. Don't dance alone in the darkness. Twirl while the lights are on. Shake what your mama gave you, baby. You deserve to have fun. Take a good look at your body, sweetheart. Make sure you smile when you do. It doesn't need to be for everyone. It was made JUST FOR YOU. #BodyPositive #LoveYourBody #EmbraceYourShape #LoveTheSkinYoureIn #BeautyIsEnergy #IAmMoreThanANumber #IAmEnough#CelebrateMySize #SelfEsteem#SelfLove #BeYou#EffYourBeautyStandards




Body progress. Over a year on hormones and blockers. I've come a long way #demilovato#selenagomez #confident #bodypositive #fitness #allblack #victoriasecret #missphilippines #piawurtzbach #kyliejenner #jessicajones #genderproud #transexual #trans #transgender #ladyboy




Can't believe it's only been about 6 months since I started my journey as a #transgender #woman and it's amazing the confidence and happiness that can be built in that short amount of time. #transformation #tgirl #mtf #transisbeautiful #journey #behappy #truetoyourself #girlslikeus #ditavonteese #lingerie #blonde #platinumhair #confidence #curves




Phew. Okay, here goes. Once when I was 6 years old, I fell asleep on the school bus. When I woke up, someone pointed out to me that I had something on my t-shirt. I went to the bathroom, looked in the mirror, and written on my shoulder were the words "Fat Pig." I was devastated, and I felt emotions that I know are unnatural for any child to feel. I felt violated, abused, and unsafe. Those feelings manifested into an INCREDIBLY unhealthy body image that would follow me up until adulthood. Every night I would go to bed wishing I would wake up as someone else. As a better person. I hated the skin I was in. I resented God for making me this way. I didn't understand. Now, finally at 31 years old, I've done something I NEVER thought I would have the courage to do--I bought a two piece bathing suit. Not only that, but I somehow have mustered the courage to post it onto social media! It's an incredibly scary step to take. I've struggled with whether or not I should do this but the truth of the matter is, I'm not doing this for myself. I'm doing this for the girls out there who are still struggling with the skin they're in. Whether you're a size 2 or a size 26--you gotta embrace your shell of a body. And you gotta fix the inside--the mind, the will, and the emotions. Because if you go from 300 lbs to 120 lbs, but don't address the way you see yourself--you'll never be happy. That is a fact. Don't internalise the negative and nasty perception some people will have of you...those are NOT your burdens to bare, baby. #PlusSized #Curvy#BathingSuit #HonorYourCurves #HonorCurves #EffYourBeautyStandards #TessHoliday #AshleyGraham #HunterMcGrady #Inspiration #Torrid #Forever21Plus#TorridSwimwear #BodyImage#SelfAcceptance #SelfLove #LoveYourSkin #LoveYourCurves #ChubbyBunny #GentlemenPreferCurves #SheNeedsATan #TakeMeToTheBeach#Hawaii #Oahu #Fatshion




This is what 24 hours postpartum looks like. Baby in sling. Skin to skin. Adult diapers. And a rosy glow. My body feels like it ran a marathon and my heart is wide open from yesterday's travels. Birth opens us like an earthquake opens the earth and I am still in the intimate, fragile throes of that opening. I feel raw. Emotional. Different. I feel like I'm on the undulating surface of the rippling ocean being tossed back and forth between happiness, gratitude, melancholy, and grief. 25 hours ago I held life within and 24 hours ago I surged and transformed allowing life to flow through me, into my waiting hands. The emptiness in my womb brings a heavy feeling crashing into reality but then this new little life whimpers, searching for the breast with soft rooting, and I feel whole again. I am still processing the beautiful transition my whole family has traveled through and I am in complete awe of our strength as humans, women, and mothers. This time is simply unlike any other. #fourthtrimester




Check out my transformation! It took me 15 minutes. Wanna know my secret? Well firstly I ditched the phonewallet (fwallet) cause that s**t is lame, swapped my bather bottoms to black (cause they're a size bigger & black is slimming), Smothered on some fake tan, clipped in my hair extensions, stood up a bit taller, sucked in my guts, popped my hip - threw in a skinny arm, stood a bit wider #boxgap, pulled my shoulders back and added a bit of a cheeky/I'm so proud of my results smile. Zoomed in on the before pic — zoomed out on the after & added a filter. Cause filters make everything awesome. What's my point? Don't be deceived by what you see in magazines & on Instagram.. You never see the dozens of other pics they took that wernt as flattering. Photoshop can make a pig look hotter then Beyonce.




In celebration of the 2 month anniversary of my armpit hair. In celebration of my first bra in three years. In celebration of FlowersOfChange. In celebration of freedom and all things blooming. @ambertheactivist has asked what my body hair would say if it could talk, and this is what my hairy pits would say;

Thank you for seeing me. Thank you for giving me the freedom to bloom. Thank you for loving me as I am.

Growing out my body hair gives me such a feeling of freedom. See I'm a dark haired, light skinned woman, even when I tried to keep up the illusion of a hairless body, stubble always gave me away, like a little kid hiding under her invisibility cloak. Also, I'm a grown ass woman and I've grown weary of the idea of making my body look prepubescent so as to be deemed attractive or acceptable. But most of all, I'm done hating my body and the magic with which it was made. Even weeds are gorgeous flowers seen through the right eyes. #freespirit #effyourbeautystandards #bodypositive #bodyhair #hairyarmpits#natural #flowers #infullbloom #blooming #rebelle #girlswithtattoos #lotus #loveyourself #selflove #allbodiesarebeautiful #selfacceptance #inspiration #femaleempowerment #feminism #wildwoman #selfie #workofart #radicalselflove




There was no caption with Baddie's post but I love her and her tagline - 'stealing your man since 1928'.





Hi Mai, tell me about yourself -

I’m Danish and moved to London 2 years ago. I'm a certified lifestyle coach working as a fitness instructor and I’m about to finish my qualification as a personal trainer. Also I’m currently studying integrative nutrition so I'll be a holistic health coach later on this year. Aside from that I also write a blog called Nordic Earthchild. It’s focused on holistic health and I try to write positive things and have a positive impact on women’s lives. I write funny stories and healthy recipes as well as helpful articles on how to balance life. There is so much pressure on women these days - career pressure, the pressure of being a mum and the pressure to look amazing. Women have to juggle all of these different factors and it’s really difficult to balance of all this without neglecting yourself as a person. I’m a big fan of Yoga. I do Iyengar­, Hatha and Vinyasa yoga – I haven’t committed to just one practice. And I’m a bit of a traveller. Straight after university I worked in Vietnam for 3 months in a development project. After that I just continued travelling the world. I’ve attended Buddhist retreats in Nepal and I studied for a diving certificate in the Philippines. I’ve also been to Australia, Bali, Malaysia, Singapore, Canada and Iceland – and two years ago I decided to finally settle down in London.


How would you describe your style?

My style is eclectic and a little hippie-ish. My boyfriend calls me a ‘luxury hippie’ - my style is bohemian but I still like high-end brands such as Missoni. Recently, as I’ve been spending more time working out, I’ve been getting more into active wear. I love the online shop Hip & Healthy as it stocks great Australian brands in the UK.


Would you say your lingerie fits into you that style or do you like to express yourself differently or experiment underneath?

Yes, I would say it’s similar to my outerwear style - my lingerie style is eclectic too! I like black and I like lace... but I also have a lot of colour sets. I like to keep things simple and black lace is stylish, elegant and sexy. I occasionally wear stockings and suspenders but it’s not natural - it feels like equipment! I don’t wear a lot of makeup and I don’t like overdone look - heels, stockings, suspenders, thong, push-up bra etc… my lingerie style is much more laid back and natural.


What are your favourite fashion and lingerie designers/ brands?

I love the French lingerie brand Etam. They do great things that are feminine and full lace and the price is really reasonable. Agent Provocateur do amazing things if you want something special and go all out. Also Victoria’s Secret has a few nice things but it’s hard to find many sets in there as they do so many push up bras - I like things that are sexy but not vulgar!


What’s your favourite set of lingerie and why?

The black lace bralette I wore in the shoot is my favourite. It feels like I’m not wearing anything. I always get a shower when I come home and then slip into that - it’s a great top to help you wind down.


What's your worst lingerie purchase? 

Recently I got a lace bra from American Apparel. I didn’t try it on and when I got home I realised the cups were cut too deep - my nipples were popping out! In the store it looked amazing but it’s impractical. Also I’m not a fan of thongs, I bought one to try it out but that was another terrible purchase.


Do you have a lot of swimwear?

Yes, I’ve been collecting different swimwear on my travels. I collect bikinis as souvenirs. I have ones from Bali, Malaysia, Singapore, Australia, and Italy etc… I don’t buy copies or knock-offs - I like to buy from real local designers. I don’t buy high street mass-produced swimwear. If I bought a bikini from H&M, I’d hate the thought that I can go anywhere in the world and somebody else will be wearing that bikini!


How would you describe your body image?

I have a relaxed body image. Today I take my emotional health into consideration and diets don't really account for that. It's all about having a balanced lifestyle with room for everything - healthy juices, vegetables as well as chocolate and red wine! Taking care of my body is about being happy and living the life I want for myself - that's also what I help my clients establish. You'll never get your dream body if you're not happy and don't listen to yourself because then we just fall into bad habits. The body is your friend - treat it with trust, respect and love.


Are there any words of wisdom you like to live your life by?

I have a little mantra instead – “This is me, this is who I am”. It’s from one of the retreats I did in Nepal. So many people don’t do things, as they’re afraid of what might happen and what people might think. This mantra reminds me to accept myself and not be afraid of other people’s judgements.











If you would like to take part in one of our La Vie En Lingerie interviews and photoshoots in London please get in touch. Casting is open to anyone who identifies as a woman - regardless of age, shape, size or chroma-zone combination. Help us promote diversity and body positivity and have a little fun in the process! lingerielafemme-nadiaking



We are looking for women to help us showcase body diversity! Regardless of your shape, size, age, ethnicity or chroma-zone combination, we want to hear from you...

Casting_chairs_lingerie_la_femme_la_vie_en_lingerie_models_wanted_04The #Beauty Manifesto is a big part of Lingerie La Femme and one of my main goals when setting up LLF was to showcase body diversity.


The media is getting better at showing body diversity with shows like Girls and plus-size models securing major campaigns but I still think there is a long way to go.


For our upcoming La Vie En Lingerie interviews, I would like to take a step further and invite readers to take part. You will be invited to one of our monthly photo-shoots in London. Hair and make-up, styling advice and help with posing is provided - you do not need to have any previous experience.  We want to hear your stories, showcase your personal style and celebrate your natural beauty.


If you have ever considered a Boudoir shoot or fancy stepping out of your comfort zone then this is your opportunity.


To apply simply email a short bio and let us know why you're interested in shooting for Lingerie La Femme.



Inspiring links about body diversity:

Pretty Cool: Seeing Body Diversity Makes Us More Comfortable With Diverse Bodies

by Jezabel.com

Exclusive: How I Learned to Love My Body, by Orange Is the New Black's Danielle Brooks

by Glamour.com

Yet Another Reason Advertisers Should Embrace Body Diversity

by The Huffington Post

XOJane & Gabi Fresh Fatkini Gallery Shows Off Body Diversity In Swimwear

by The Huffington Post


The Finer Details



Can you spot-the-difference?

Photoshop is every where and it surprises me that there are still very few articles out there that call out the techniques used. I feel it's important for everyone to understand how it works so they can be a better judge of the images they're exposed to. The Finer Details is a new monthly feature providing a fun way to get acquainted...


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The Stripes

Clothes are not exempt from a little retouching here are there. Even after the most rigorous steaming, wrinkles/ marks/ make-up stains etc.. can often be found on samples. The plan is always to return them in perfect condition but after being shipped to publication after publication sometimes you get them in less-than-stella form. Nobody in their right minds looking to sell this lingerie set would photo-shop out such a defining feature but I wanted to keep things easy to start off with...


The Shirt

Another obvious amendment to spot. This can,and often is, applied to hair colour, eye colour, make-up and clothes etc...


The Ring

One of the rings were retouched out.


The Buttons

Because buttons are unsightly and therefore ruins the whole photo.. obvs.


The Hair Tie

I wouldn't like to calculate the amount of lost hours spent photo-shopping out hair ties. Even though I often have hundreds of images to choose from, chances are I'll go for the one taken within the first 5 minutes of the photo-shoot when I've failed to notice the hair tie!


The Thong

No stylists kit is complete without a nude thong. As mentioned before, samples are often sent out to many magazines so a nude thong is a must have on a photo-shoot. One other, less comfortable way deal with particularly small underpinnings is to use masking tape on the gusset.


The Legs

Dodge and Burn are some incredibly important tools to any retoucher. They help to add depth to an image and in this case define a models legs. The dodge tool is used to bring out cheekbones, illuminate eyes, boost a cleavage or emphazise a little shine. The Burn tool is used to slim down and define, often used to deepen collarbones and define the jaw, muscles, arms, legs etc. Think of it as digital contouring- the dodge tool is your highlighter and the burn tool your bronzer.


If you are a retoucher and would like to contribute to The Finer Details please get in touch.